One of my main goals is to support & strengthen your relationship with your child.
You are central to your child's development and well-being.
Stressful experiences affect children because these experiences can affect the mood and functioning of the grown-ups around them.
Children learn from watching us.
I believe that families don’t belong in court. Collaborative family law is a way of negotiating a win-win divorce agreement based on your unique needs and interests. You and your spouse retain collaborative lawyers and commit to respectful, fully informed discussions. As part of the collaborative team, Dr. Deb guides you through conversations about your parenting arrangements. Dr. Deb will also act as a neutral professional, supporting lawyers and clients during challenging discussions. Dr. Deb ensures the process is balanced, emotions are managed and the negotiations are considerate and productive.
Because the amount of conflict between parents during and after a divorce can have such negative impacts on all involved, especially children, it's wise to take steps to reduce that conflict.
By meeting with me in the office you will learn to listen for understanding in order to reduce conflict, improve cooperation by improving communication, develop positive negotiation skills, increase understanding of your child's developmental needs, as well as to bring awareness to each home's structure, boundaries, expectation, consequences, follow through and consistency.
Co-parenting Counseling can empower you and your co-parent to help your kids stay connected as your family transitions to a new normal.
Mediation is a way for you and your spouse to talk about parenting during and after separation. Dr. Deb supports you to identify the topics to be discussed, explain your preferences and to consider a variety of possible solutions to the issues. Dr. Deb will draft a Parenting Plan and review it with you to ensure it accurately reflects the decisions you have made together.
Every parent Dr. Deb has worked with believes that they intimately know and understand their child’s needs, preferences and concerns. And yet, all of the parents she has worked with have some disagreement about those very things. Dr. Deb meets with children and adolescents and uses evidence based practice so they are comfortable talking about their separation related experiences. Hearing from your child or teen helps you bridge gaps in your awareness, shines soft light on your blind spots and affirms your strengths.
Dr. Deb WILL NOT put children in the middle of the parents nor place the child in the position of being a decision maker.
Dr. Deb offers consultation services to parents struggling with specific divorce/separation related issues. For example, Dr. Deb can provide guidance on telling children about the separation/divorce; communication strategies after separation and divorce and introducing new partners successfully/blended families.
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